BOOKMARKED - A book Club

 Shad Helmstteter in the next few chapters is giving examples of how we could change our Attitude . Everything we do is affected directly or indirectly by our attitude. By changing our attitude we could almost change everything in our life.  The Better the Attitude the better the results . ‘Since our attitudes are the result of our programming it makes good sense to take a look at the attitudes we are living with and which of them we might like to change'  I am sharing below some of the self-talks phrases suggested by Shad.  For Taking responsibility. “I enjoy being responsible. It puts me in charge of being me- and that’s a challenge I enjoy” “I choose to leave nothing about me to chance. When it comes to me – and anything in my life- I choose to CHOOSE!” For Building Self-esteem “I smile a lot. I am happy on the inside and I am happy on the outside” “I have many beautiful qualities about me. I have talents and skills and abilities. I am discovering new talents insi...

 Putting self-talk into practice Shad Helmstetter talks about how to put this to practical use in the next couple of chapters. For instance, he explains, as a manager of one kind or other, one can set the example by doing self-management first and then, guiding those around to develop their qualities and skills. This is an exceptional opportunity to apply self-talk in almost every situation that a manager may encounter.  Applying self-talk to improve income or financial stability. – ’ The limits of our income are set by our own internal beliefs ’. He goes on to say that we must see ourselves as being worthy and deserving for financial success. This begins with programming our mind to think so, and thereby changing our attitude and belief towards this goal. Raising and teaching children- is another area where he says that Self-talk can be implemented . Children accept positive self-talk more easily than some of their parents and thereby the results will be seen faster in childr...

The techniques of Self-Talk.  SILENT SELF-TALK    This is the self talk that goes on all the time-although we are usually not aware of it. Silent self talk can be conscious or unconscious internal dialogue  When we wake up in the morning, we could say “Today is going to be a great day”.  Make a mental note of what you are talking to yourself and start the process of change by replacing it with new positive words. SELF-SPEAK Anything you are saying aloud to yourself or to someone else about you. An example of this would be “ I do not like my job” . There are times in life when all of us are compelled to put up with a bad situation. But it is completely up to us to allow or not to allow that situation to work against us.  Remember each statement that we make and repeat a number of time is a directive to our subconscious mind. SELF-CONVERSTION This is one of the easiest to use and can be fun. This is the technique of talking to your self out loud and holding...

 Let us continue with this book. What to Say When You Talk to Yourself  by Shad Helmstetter . We have covered till Chapter 8.  Chapter 9 talks about the 5 levels of Self-talk.  Self-talk as we have already read “is a way to override our past negative programming by erasing or replacing it with conscious, positive new directions.” There are several levels of Self-talk.  Level 1: Level of Negative Acceptance. This is the most harmful self-talk we can use. Words like “I can’t” or “If only I could”; these work against us and has to be avoided. Level 2: Level of Recognition and the need to change. – Characterized by words such as “I need to…”, “I should …”, “ I really need to get more organized,but.”  These create guilt, feelings of disappointment and acceptance of our self-imagined inadequacies. Level3: Level of Decision to change . This is the first level of self-talk that actually works for you. You not only recognise the need to change, but also make the d...

  All of us talk to ourselves all the time. Through words & thoughts both of which are influenced by our feeling, impressions, physical responses. Our thinking machines never shut down. Most of our SELF-TALK today is happening in an unconscious method. All of us have a big Self-made Wall of negative self-talk as Mr Shad puts it and he lists down a big list. Some of which are “I can’t remember names. This is just my luck! Nothing works right for me.” And so on. Let us check our vocabulary and our thought process to identify such negative words that we have formed. Now imagine if we have to progress in life with all these words flooding our mind always. We will never be as successful as you want to be. Because we learned this pattern, we are also passing on the same kind of thoughts and words to those around us.   Sometimes what we say to our children and teenagers behind closed doors will be very harsh. In the process, we unknowingly have passed on words and pictur...

What to Say When You Talk to Yourself  is a book by Shad Helmstetter. This book is based on a lot of scientific research about how the brain receives and accepts information. By using the principles laid down in this book we could reverse the negative programming of the brain and create new, vibrant positive life ahead. He answers the primary question -Have we ever wondered why we do not get what we want or why things don’t work the way they should? In chapter 1. We could turn our lives around. While we grew up, we had lot of dreams and aspirations but as we grew those dreams gave way to more practical considerations which were imposed on us externally. “Our human brain is an immensely powerful computer that is capable of doing for you anything reasonable that you like it to do” In the first 18 years of our life an average person would have listened to about 1,48,000 “NO’s” or “what we could not do”. We constantly listened to what others told us that we could not do and hence ...

    Today I will cover the rest of the topics being covered in this book. How to Skilfully Convince People     People are very skeptical when you say things to your advantage, hence you should make somebody else make the statement for you, Eg: “My next door neighbour used this and … “ .You need to quote people and add success stories / facts. How to Skilfully make up people’s minds   - give reasons for the person to say yes to you , these reasons must be to their advantage and for their benefit.-ask questions such that you get an *yes* answer. Something which Lis Giblin says is To Nod your head “YES” while you are asking the question and begin the question with “You”. Expect people to say YES to you – that is confidence. How to skilfully set People’s moods    You can make 9 out of 10 people like you immediately – the first few seconds sets the tone for this relationship. – people will respond to you how you respond to them. So be sincere, sm...

    Welcome friends to BOOKMARKED.  What we are going to be doing here, is sharing a synopsis about a book on a daily basis. Most of what I will be sharing will be from the Books I have personally read. Some of the books we will take a few days to cover while some other books can be covered in a day or two. So here is the first book Interacting with people is very important today. Your skill with people determines the quality of your social life, your business life and your family life. To be better in our interactions with other people, we must properly understand people and their nature. This is a beautiful book that can be read in about an  hour’s time.  *Skill with people* by Les Giblin is a masterpiece of  the art of handling people. Communication is not only talking- it is listening, influencing, skilfully critique people, praise people etc. This book primarily talks about key aspects of any communication.  I am listing below points fr...