BOOK 1 SKill WITH PEOPLE part 2 ( FINAL)

 

 

Today I will cover the rest of the topics being covered in this book.

How to Skilfully Convince People   People are very skeptical when you say things to your advantage, hence you should make somebody else make the statement for you, Eg: “My next door neighbour used this and … “ .You need to quote people and add success stories / facts.

How to Skilfully make up people’s minds  - give reasons for the person to say yes to you , these reasons must be to their advantage and for their benefit.-ask questions such that you get an *yes* answer.

Something which Lis Giblin says is To Nod your head “YES” while you are asking the question and begin the question with “You”. Expect people to say YES to you – that is confidence.

How to skilfully set People’s moods   You can make 9 out of 10 people like you immediately – the first few seconds sets the tone for this relationship. – people will respond to you how you respond to them. So be sincere, smile, be pleasant.

How to skilfully Praise people Most people for a kind word, a compliment. Be generous with your praise. Be sincere in your praise, Praise the act done by the person. Get into a habit of saying One good/ kind thing to three different people every day. Your world will be better.

How to skilfully Critique people - the key to this lies in the spirit of critiques. This must be done in absolute privacy, as earlier critique the act.

How to skilfully Thank people When you say thank you – mean it. And always thank people by name- It makes a great difference. People like to hear their name repeated often.  This will be a big asset to you if you can work on this.

How to Skilfully make a good Impression - “you are what you are so handle your self with pride and respect”  Show enthusiasm always. Don’t run other people down while you try to build yourself up.

How to skilfully make a talk   Be Brief and to the point, look at the person/ audience as you speak.  If you don’t know about it – it is best to keep quiet. Talk only what is of interest to the other person

 Copying the final words of Les Giblin. : 

Knowledge itself is of no value. It is THE USE OF KNOWLEDGE that makes it valuable. Putting this

thought another way - life does not pay off for you on what you can do. Life pays off for you on what

you do.

This knowledge is your key to a better life, more friends, more success and more happiness. Put this

knowledge to work for you and your family NOW.


My learning from this book

1.       Thank people for what they did.

2.        Be careful when you criticise, Criticize the act not the person. (Still learning this with grown up children)

3.       I will always smile and greet another person.

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